Munchkin Bites: We're all friends here

[seph1r0th757]

there's a card that says "we're all friends here," where the person losing the fight has to choose a helper. the person nominated can either help (with their levels and items) without reward or let the original person choose an item they have in play to use.

i was wondering though, who gets to choose how the helper "helps out"? the original munchkin or the helper??