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Old 07-18-2021, 01:47 AM   #7
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"Per-based social skill" makes me think of Psychology (Applied), which honestly could be better labeled Psychology (Cold Reading). Following that, here's some tangential but related thoughts on this.

"Without prior knowledge, a practiced cold-reader can quickly obtain a great deal of information by analyzing the person's body language, age, clothing or fashion, hairstyle, gender, sexual orientation, religion, ethnicity, level of education, manner of speech, place of origin, etc." - from the Wikipedia page for Cold Reading

Sure, charlatans might wield this skill but it is more commonly utilized by sociopaths (Antisocial Personality Disorder), narcissists (Narcissistic Personality Disorder)... and autistics (Autistic Spectrum Disorder) who grow savvy to their own social fecklessness.

Narcissists and sociopaths may lack "soft empathy" (truly feeling for others) but have more "hard empathy" (intelligent identification of emotions). Autistics tend to struggle with hard empathy (hence "social fecklessness") but usually have better soft empathy. All of them benefit from Psychology (Cold Reading). Narcissists and sociopaths invest in it over their life time to better manipulate those around them, while autistics will attempt to pick up the skill to better compensate for their lacking hard empathy. Everyone benefits from learning it simply for the sake of more effective communication; rather than be presumptuous it is better to try to achieve more informed communication to be more amicable with others and have more productive discussions because you're wasting less time figuring out the nuances of the other person's identity and personality.

Given my background, I'm quite interested in the empathetically challenged. I hope this was useful ( somewhat tangential) insight.
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