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Old 07-29-2015, 07:03 PM   #35
jason taylor
 
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Default Re: Social Vulnerability: Daddy Issues (?)

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Originally Posted by Bruno View Post
As a woman I'm going to come in to this conversation. Trusting "older men" (not necessarily elderly men) blindly is contra-survival.

A 20 year old woman with the Delusion that older men are all nice and have her best interests in heart is approached by a man in his 40s who says he needs her help lifting something heavy out of his van. It's riiight at the back of the van so she'll have to climb in to get it.

How do you think this story is going to end?


Blindly and completely trusting strange men because of some superficial trait (age, hair colour, race, apparent profession) is bad for anyone. It's worse for women.
I don't know how the story is going to end, that's the problem. The man in his 40s could just want to lift something heavy out of his van. Of course he would probably want a guy's help just to begin with(don't ask about that; deciphering petty chauvinism isn't the point).

But suppose on the other hand the woman in her 20s is abused and kept as a personal sex slave by her um...boyfriend.... She was also abused by her father. And she associates all men with cruelty. Then she meets a man in his 40s. Except the man in his 40s is an off duty cop(with an engaging if imprudent hero syndrome rather like Jamie Reagan of course) and if he heard her story would take her to the station and have her put in a rehab, and lock up her um...boyfriend for a very long time.

That is a problem too. Irrational distrust based on superficial associations can be as hurtful as irrational trust.

To exist in humanity one has to find a balance. Most of the things one does such as drinking tapwater, or crossing on a crosswalk are based on the assumption that people will do what they are supposed to do.

The true lesson is moderation in all things. Including trust.
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